Positive Role of Our Negative Feelings - Anger, Jealousy and Hate

As a culture people are dazzled by an idealized vision of love. When it fails to live up to expectations, the effects can be shattering. Yet intimate relationships cannot be all sweetness and light - betrayal, neglect, abuse and vindictiveness are all part of the dark side of love. If hurt and rage are repressed - perhaps because of a sense of guilt - people may be left with a burning resentment, even hatred, with potentially destructive power. Drawing on her extensive experience as a counsellor, Jane Goldberg examines the pains and hurts of love, and reveals that the key to a stronger love lies, paradoxically, in the constructive use of hate and anger. The book shows the reader that by breaking the taboo surrounding negative emotions, by acknowledging and transforming the bitterness that has been pushed into the unconscious, people are free at last to enjoy the present. Jane Goldberg is the author of "Deceits of the Mind".